Send us a textHow do we, as single moms, leave a legacy of positivity and purpose for our children in this brand new year of 2025? Join me on this heartfelt episode of the Single Moms United Podcast as I share my personal insights into the intricate dance of modeling positive behavior while embracing the unique challenges of single parenting. Discover strategies that will help you manage emotions behind closed doors and understand the profound impact of those tender, everyday moments—because ...
How do we, as single moms, leave a legacy of positivity and purpose for our children in this brand new year of 2025? Join me on this heartfelt episode of the Single Moms United Podcast as I share my personal insights into the intricate dance of modeling positive behavior while embracing the unique challenges of single parenting. Discover strategies that will help you manage emotions behind closed doors and understand the profound impact of those tender, everyday moments—because as I always say, "A hug a day keeps the bad influencing away." Let's embark on this journey together to create nurturing environments where our children can thrive by absorbing the best of what we offer.
It's not how you arrived at the title, but what you do with it.
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00:00:03.346 --> 00:00:12.965 Hey, ladies, welcome to the Single Moms United podcast, where we cannot spell United without the letter U or Y-O-U.
00:00:12.965 --> 00:00:21.451 Hey, I want to send a shout out of Happy New Year, welcome to 2025.
00:00:21.451 --> 00:00:25.966 I'm confident, ladies, that this is your year to thrive.
00:00:25.966 --> 00:00:42.006 Hopefully, 2024 allowed you to open new doors and you take advantage of that and make it yours, because it's not about how you arrived at the single mom title, it's what you do with it, right.
00:00:42.006 --> 00:00:48.253 So this podcast is designed to encourage and motivate you.
00:00:48.514 --> 00:00:52.082 Single mom, being a single parent it's not easy.
00:00:52.082 --> 00:00:54.448 It's not easy, but you can do it.
00:00:54.448 --> 00:00:57.973 You can do it, I'm confident.
00:00:57.973 --> 00:00:59.021 How do I know?
00:00:59.021 --> 00:01:00.863 Because I'm a single mom.
00:01:00.863 --> 00:01:14.233 Every challenge that pretty much all of them that you're facing, I faced and got through it, and so I want you to be encouraged today and put a smile on your face.
00:01:14.233 --> 00:01:26.390 You know you're going to have a tough day every now and then, probably more often than not, but this is not the time to wallow in it, if that's an appropriate word.
00:01:26.390 --> 00:01:28.254 Get up, get moving.
00:01:28.254 --> 00:01:34.387 It's okay to feel sad and feel overwhelmed some days, but don't stay there.
00:01:34.387 --> 00:01:37.986 Don't stay there, mom, you have a lot of work to do.
00:01:37.986 --> 00:01:48.643 You have a lot to show your child or your children, and so you can't stay in that and, for lack of a better term, have that pity party.
00:01:48.643 --> 00:01:50.986 It should be temporary, all right.
00:01:50.986 --> 00:02:00.908 So I've set my spiel and I want to continue down the road of selecting words from the letter I.
00:02:01.289 --> 00:02:04.072 Today's word is impression.
00:02:04.072 --> 00:02:09.981 You know, impression is what type of mark are you leaving on your children?
00:02:09.981 --> 00:02:12.265 What are they seeing, right?
00:02:12.265 --> 00:02:16.533 What type of impression are you making on them?
00:02:16.533 --> 00:02:23.550 You know, in the real world we talk about first impressions are lasting impressions, right?
00:02:23.550 --> 00:02:27.782 How people meet you, they size you up in the first seven seconds.
00:02:27.782 --> 00:02:28.824 Did you know that?
00:02:28.824 --> 00:02:32.973 But with children it's different, because this is long-term.
00:02:33.479 --> 00:02:37.068 You know, once upon a time I cared about what people thought of me.
00:02:37.068 --> 00:02:44.389 I really did, but they didn't sow into my life or weren't a real value in my life.
00:02:44.389 --> 00:02:48.100 But for some reason I cared about what they thought.
00:02:48.100 --> 00:02:54.241 Just the natural response, right, because that's what we're made of as far as our DNA.
00:02:54.241 --> 00:03:02.243 Here's the good news it doesn't matter what people think of you, because you'll probably never encounter them again.
00:03:02.243 --> 00:03:04.247 It's a once in a lifetime thing.
00:03:04.247 --> 00:03:10.004 But your child or your children, it is important what they think of you.
00:03:10.004 --> 00:03:11.086 You know why?
00:03:11.086 --> 00:03:15.381 Because they're going to mimic a lot of your behaviors.
00:03:15.381 --> 00:03:17.122 That's right.
00:03:17.122 --> 00:03:19.846 You get angry easily.
00:03:19.846 --> 00:03:21.068 Guess what?
00:03:21.068 --> 00:03:30.282 You're probably encouraging or teaching them about anger and not being able to manage that, and that's an issue.
00:03:30.683 --> 00:03:42.159 You have to be careful about what impression you're leaving on your children, because at some point you are going to have to release them into the world.
00:03:42.159 --> 00:03:49.844 They are going to carry some of those same behaviors they saw you do as you were raising them.
00:03:49.844 --> 00:03:51.269 How do I know?
00:03:51.269 --> 00:03:58.164 I see things or hear my kids say stuff that I'm like, wow, I didn't mean for them to hear that.
00:03:58.164 --> 00:04:09.843 I didn't mean to display that behavior in front of them, mean to display that behavior in front of them, but it happened.
00:04:09.903 --> 00:04:10.605 So how do you correct that?
00:04:10.605 --> 00:04:11.527 And you have to correct it.
00:04:11.527 --> 00:04:21.029 You should be allowing your children to see more positive behaviors than negative, because you're never going to totally suppress negative behavior.
00:04:21.029 --> 00:04:27.802 Your negative behavior should not be forefront of your interactions.
00:04:27.802 --> 00:04:35.983 You should be able to create a nice balance of what your children see, and most of it should be positive.
00:04:36.624 --> 00:04:47.555 Now, when you have that urge to share your real thoughts or display negative behavior, try to do it in private and not in front of the kids.
00:04:47.555 --> 00:04:51.577 Okay, they will pick up on that and they'll carry it.
00:04:51.577 --> 00:05:01.485 It is almost like you carrying a cold and you know you sneeze and the next thing you know your child is sneezing because they caught the cold.
00:05:01.485 --> 00:05:07.988 Because, unfortunately, that's how these bad behaviors occur, as well as positive.
00:05:07.988 --> 00:05:13.572 As well as positive because they are like sponges, they pick up everything.
00:05:13.572 --> 00:05:33.310 But when we talk about the impression that you leave on your children, I encourage you to just display positive behaviors, because there are so many influencers out there today where they can pick up other bad things.
00:05:33.310 --> 00:05:37.346 It's up to you, mom, to leave that positive impression.
00:05:37.346 --> 00:05:41.444 Now here's my own slogan and you can use it.
00:05:41.444 --> 00:05:47.317 You're welcome to use it A hug a day keeps the bad influencing away.
00:05:47.317 --> 00:05:48.658 A hug a day keeps the bad influencing away.
00:05:48.658 --> 00:06:08.730 Again, moms, if you're trying to change your behaviors which I strongly encourage you to do and if you're struggling with that again, just try to channel that bad behavior outside of the kids, that they're not allowed to see that, because it's only going to benefit you in the end.
00:06:08.730 --> 00:06:10.310 It really is.
00:06:10.310 --> 00:06:11.331 I get it.
00:06:11.711 --> 00:06:13.392 Life is something else.
00:06:13.392 --> 00:06:31.523 It is something else and you have to learn how to deal with it, and we're not really taught at least I wasn't how to deal with life and the negative things that you have to contend with on a daily basis, and nobody teaches us that.
00:06:31.523 --> 00:06:32.959 But we are taught.
00:06:32.959 --> 00:06:36.235 When someone gives us something, to say thank you, right.
00:06:36.235 --> 00:06:44.529 When we cross in front of someone, or so forth, we say excuse me or I'm sorry, that type of thing.
00:06:44.529 --> 00:06:51.067 But nobody teaches about the other pieces of life that we have to deal with.
00:06:51.555 --> 00:06:57.627 If you're like me, you learn through what you see, and your kids are like that as well.
00:06:57.627 --> 00:07:11.505 They're watching you and how you react, and if you don't go back and educate them, if it's bad behavior that they're seeing, then they're going to continue to go down that path in life.
00:07:11.505 --> 00:07:26.120 We have to have more of the 90% of them seeing positive things that we do than 10% negative, because you're mad all the time or got an attitude all the time and that's not okay.
00:07:26.120 --> 00:07:30.560 That's not okay and you got to learn how to deal with that.
00:07:30.560 --> 00:07:36.617 So again, moms, what type of impression are you leaving on your children?
00:07:36.617 --> 00:07:51.420 What do you want them to take with them as they enter into the world, and how to combat that negative behavior that they're going to experience from others out in the world?
00:07:51.420 --> 00:08:00.785 So just think about that because, remember, this podcast is about critical thinking and that's something you have to take and keep in mind.
00:08:00.785 --> 00:08:03.817 As a mom, we're more than just nurturers.
00:08:07.524 --> 00:08:09.829 We want our children to do well.
00:08:09.829 --> 00:08:19.048 We have an opportunity to turn things around and be a positive role model for our kids.
00:08:19.048 --> 00:08:23.341 It's not going to be easy, but here's the good news you can do this.
00:08:23.341 --> 00:08:25.665 You can do this.
00:08:25.665 --> 00:08:27.507 I promise you.
00:08:27.507 --> 00:08:28.468 You can do this.
00:08:28.528 --> 00:08:41.663 Single mom, if you enjoyed today's episode about impressions, tell another single mom and also visit my website, single Moms United Podcast.
00:08:41.663 --> 00:08:43.145 Let me know.
00:08:43.145 --> 00:08:44.808 I would love to hear from you.
00:08:44.808 --> 00:08:47.383 There's also a survey out there.
00:08:47.383 --> 00:08:55.908 I would love to hear that, hey, yeah, this went well, or yeah, it really didn't do anything for me.
00:08:55.908 --> 00:08:58.256 And if it did not, I'd love to know why.
00:08:58.256 --> 00:09:03.844 Because, again, this podcast is designed to motivate and encourage you.
00:09:03.844 --> 00:09:08.428 Single mom, all right, Again, happy new year.
00:09:08.428 --> 00:09:20.041 I will continue to extract words from the letter I and if you have a word choice you would like for me to elaborate on, let me know.
00:09:20.041 --> 00:09:26.019 Again, go to my website and leave me some comments, or go to my YouTube page and leave some comments.
00:09:26.019 --> 00:09:29.308 Have a great day, ladies, take care.
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