Embracing Positivity: Transform Your Journey as a Single Mom
Send us a text The episode emphasizes that single moms have significant control over their choices, impacting their journey and their children's development. By focusing on decision-making, self-reflection, and nurturing positive connections, mothers are empowered to navigate life’s challenges more effectively. • Power of choices in personal and parenting life • Importance of ignoring negativity for peace • Learning from both good and bad decisions • Seeking education ...
The episode emphasizes that single moms have significant control over their choices, impacting their journey and their children's development. By focusing on decision-making, self-reflection, and nurturing positive connections, mothers are empowered to navigate life’s challenges more effectively. • Power of choices in personal and parenting life • Importance of ignoring negativity for peace • Learning from both good and bad decisions • Seeking education through personal reflection • Teaching children about consequences of their choices • Building strong connections through quality time • Encouragement for single moms to stay motivated • Call to share the episode with other single moms
It's not how you arrived at the title, but what you do with it.
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00:00:01.502 --> 00:00:11.689 Hey ladies, welcome to the Single Moms United podcast, where we cannot spell united without you or Y-O-U.
00:00:11.689 --> 00:00:23.634 Hey, if this is your first time dropping by, welcome If you are a repeat listener, thank you, thank you and thank you for your loyalty.
00:00:23.634 --> 00:00:29.091 This podcast is all about motivating and encouraging a single mom.
00:00:29.091 --> 00:00:31.782 I know all about that.
00:00:31.782 --> 00:00:50.624 You need encouragement because I'm a single mom and I know what it was like and what it is like to try to navigate life as a parent on your own and with minimal support, whether he chooses to not be able to provide that support.
00:00:50.624 --> 00:00:55.600 But either way, it's not about how you arrived at the single mom title.
00:00:55.600 --> 00:00:57.182 It's what you do with it.
00:00:57.182 --> 00:00:58.585 That's right, mom.
00:00:58.585 --> 00:01:00.787 It's what you do with it.
00:01:00.787 --> 00:01:05.956 So you have control over that, and that's what I want to talk about today.
00:01:06.076 --> 00:01:25.290 So I am deviating a little bit from my prior topics of the letter I and I'm going to focus on something else today which I hope you will find value in it and that it will make you think, because this is about critical thinking as well when it comes to parenting.
00:01:25.290 --> 00:01:28.724 So today's topic is about choices.
00:01:28.724 --> 00:01:43.890 Yeah, and every day, throughout the day, we have to make choices as it relates to parenting, and sometimes we get it right, sometimes we get it wrong.
00:01:43.890 --> 00:01:52.331 Ask me how I know, okay, but either way, the good news is you can learn from it.
00:01:52.331 --> 00:01:54.587 You can learn from both.
00:01:54.587 --> 00:02:08.544 If it's a good choice, you know like well what happened, what made me come to this decision of going this way versus that way, and then, if it's a bad choice, you learn to right why did I do that?
00:02:08.544 --> 00:02:13.813 And, as a result of me picking that choice, this is what happened.
00:02:13.813 --> 00:02:20.031 So I definitely don't want to do that again For the sake of this exercise.
00:02:20.031 --> 00:02:36.490 I really want to talk about life in general and options that are available to you, single mom, and you can pick how you want your day to go, and I bet you didn't even know you had that much control over your life.
00:02:37.271 --> 00:02:45.382 Yeah, yeah, just because something bad happens doesn't mean you have to entertain it, right?
00:02:45.382 --> 00:02:55.853 You don't have to respond, and I'm so thankful that I'm at a stage in my life that I know that I can just ignore something.
00:02:55.853 --> 00:03:02.247 You know, if I'm choosing not to respond, I don't have to respond, especially if it's going to interrupt my peace.
00:03:02.247 --> 00:03:07.474 So therefore, I'm like, hmm, is it even worth it?
00:03:07.474 --> 00:03:13.032 I tell you, since I started incorporating that in my lifestyle.
00:03:13.032 --> 00:03:29.234 It's been such, such, such a relief, because now I'm picking and choosing if I want to be mad, upset and angry over something that's probably not even worth it at the end of the day.
00:03:29.234 --> 00:03:31.966 So I'm learning how to ignore things.
00:03:31.966 --> 00:03:35.443 Ignoring people Hmm, Imagine that.
00:03:35.443 --> 00:03:40.949 But anyway, all right, y'all know me, I get off the highway every now and then.
00:03:40.949 --> 00:03:42.325 So let me get back on.
00:03:42.840 --> 00:03:47.423 So this should be brief and to the point, and we're talking about choices.
00:03:47.423 --> 00:03:48.484 Choices.
00:03:48.484 --> 00:03:50.388 Consider this moms.
00:03:50.388 --> 00:03:55.014 Sad has three letters, but so does joy.
00:03:55.014 --> 00:04:01.387 Fall has four letters, but so does rise.
00:04:01.387 --> 00:04:07.436 Curse has five letters, but so does bless.
00:04:07.436 --> 00:04:13.032 Ignore has six letters, but so does listen.
00:04:13.032 --> 00:04:18.552 Enemies have seven letters, but so does friends.
00:04:18.552 --> 00:04:24.420 Immature has eight letters, but so does maturity.
00:04:24.420 --> 00:04:29.240 Immature has eight letters, but so does maturity.
00:04:29.240 --> 00:04:35.199 Ignorance has nine letters, but so does knowledge.
00:04:35.199 --> 00:04:38.103 Negativity has 10 letters, but so does positivity.
00:04:38.103 --> 00:04:42.189 So, ladies, I just gave you a brief example.
00:04:42.189 --> 00:04:52.230 Whether you choose negativity versus positive, or you choose positivity versus positive, things that either can make your day or break your day.
00:04:52.230 --> 00:04:57.290 Now, that's just a small sample of choices that you have.
00:04:58.540 --> 00:05:04.052 You know, as a single mom, we already have a lot that we have to endure.
00:05:04.052 --> 00:05:06.067 We have a lot that's on our plate.
00:05:06.067 --> 00:05:15.012 We have a lot of decisions to make right, and that's okay, because we made the ultimate decision not to abort the child.
00:05:15.012 --> 00:05:15.560 Right.
00:05:15.560 --> 00:05:20.170 We decided to have our child in spite of what the circumstance was.
00:05:20.170 --> 00:05:23.081 So you've already made a great decision.
00:05:23.081 --> 00:05:33.372 But now you need to take it a step further and not let society define who you are as a single mom.
00:05:33.372 --> 00:05:41.125 You've already made that decision hey, I can do this, I'm gonna do this right.
00:05:41.125 --> 00:05:43.230 So stop being discouraged.
00:05:43.230 --> 00:05:45.894 Get encouraged, get motivated.
00:05:45.894 --> 00:05:50.221 Yes, okay, if you have a down day, but don't stay there.
00:05:50.221 --> 00:05:54.142 Don't stay there, get up and say shake it off.
00:05:54.142 --> 00:05:57.684 I'm going to do this, I'm going to get through it.
00:05:57.684 --> 00:06:07.206 I'm at the stage of my life where I say come on, challenge, bring it on, bring it on, I'm ready, I'm ready for you when it comes.
00:06:07.206 --> 00:06:08.547 And they do come.
00:06:09.048 --> 00:06:13.728 Then I said then the next phase is how am I going to approach this Right?
00:06:13.728 --> 00:06:15.850 Do I need to approach it?
00:06:15.850 --> 00:06:16.990 Think about that.
00:06:16.990 --> 00:06:23.432 I had a situation yesterday where it could have went totally different.
00:06:23.432 --> 00:06:27.293 But you know what I said, you know what I'm not going to entertain this.
00:06:27.293 --> 00:06:39.517 I'm going to move on, I'm going to think about it and I'm going to come back and use a different approach, because once upon a time I used to just go right after the jugular.
00:06:39.517 --> 00:06:42.358 I'd go straight for the neck in some instances.
00:06:42.358 --> 00:06:48.963 When I'm upset about something, I wouldn't hold back.
00:06:48.963 --> 00:06:56.485 But I'm thankful that I'm able to control my temper now and really think about things, think about the approach.
00:06:57.661 --> 00:07:01.951 So I would challenge you to do the same thing, mom, especially with your kids.
00:07:01.951 --> 00:07:05.670 You know they're going to bother your nerves.
00:07:05.670 --> 00:07:07.447 I don't know how else to say that.
00:07:07.447 --> 00:07:12.651 Right, learn how to incorporate different discipline methods.
00:07:12.651 --> 00:07:16.749 Learn how, maybe, not to respond immediately.
00:07:16.749 --> 00:07:25.040 Yeah, you know, I wish I would have known this earlier on with my kids, because it was always yell, yell, yell, yell, yell.
00:07:25.040 --> 00:07:28.968 If you think about what they did and how they did it.
00:07:28.968 --> 00:07:30.793 Did they know any better?
00:07:30.793 --> 00:07:33.065 Sometimes they don it.
00:07:33.065 --> 00:07:33.608 Did they know any better?
00:07:33.608 --> 00:07:34.129 Sometimes they don't.
00:07:34.149 --> 00:07:39.990 But yet as parents, we just fly off the handle and cut it out.
00:07:39.990 --> 00:07:41.254 Sometimes they don't know better.
00:07:41.254 --> 00:07:48.987 So we have to get into teaching mode and educate them Because remember, mom, you're more than just a mom.
00:07:48.987 --> 00:07:51.732 You are a mentor.
00:07:51.732 --> 00:07:54.615 Your child is looking up to you.
00:07:54.615 --> 00:08:15.954 So you have to practice and display behaviors that are more positive than negative Because, remember, you have to release these children, or your child, into the world and they're going to have to get out there and be able to fend for themselves.
00:08:15.954 --> 00:08:30.401 And a lot of times, the only knowledge they really get, where it's there is no hidden agenda, it's with you, mom, because others you know, hey, I can do this for you, but you have to do this.
00:08:30.401 --> 00:08:43.083 You've experienced it, I've experienced it, but, as parents, there's no hidden agenda with us, so we should be able to level set and educate our children properly.
00:08:43.671 --> 00:08:51.136 With that being said, mom, again, it's not about how you arrived at the single mom title, it's what you do with it.
00:08:51.136 --> 00:09:00.417 I challenge you put your phone down for an hour or put it on, do not disturb for an hour.
00:09:00.417 --> 00:09:07.065 Spend some time with your child, incorporate that physical connect right.
00:09:07.065 --> 00:09:08.571 That hug right.
00:09:08.571 --> 00:09:26.085 A hug a day will help prevent them from straying right, because they know they can come to mom with anything and everything, shouldn't have to go outside of mom to get answers and if you don't have the answer, that's okay.
00:09:26.085 --> 00:09:30.181 That is absolutely okay.
00:09:30.931 --> 00:09:40.543 Once upon a time, way back when I used to lead teams and I used to tell them it's okay if you don't know the answer.
00:09:40.543 --> 00:09:46.100 But what's not okay is you not try to find the answer.
00:09:46.100 --> 00:09:50.212 So, moms, I want to reinforce that with you.
00:09:50.212 --> 00:09:56.831 It's okay if you don't know the answer there's probably a lot you don't know, and that's okay.
00:09:56.831 --> 00:10:00.256 But, moms, I challenge you, please.
00:10:00.256 --> 00:10:16.479 You know you have technology available to you and if you have older folks that are around, they can probably share with you some of the answers you need about some of life's topics, and I would encourage you to do that.
00:10:16.479 --> 00:10:22.938 So, with that said, ladies, I hope you have a fantastic day, a wonderful month.
00:10:22.938 --> 00:10:32.722 You stay strong, stay encouraged, stay motivated and also, that's right, tell another single mom.
00:10:32.722 --> 00:10:45.982 If you have comments for me, go to my YouTube page, leave me some comments there, or go to my website, singlemomsunitedpodcastcom.
00:10:45.982 --> 00:10:49.730 I would love to hear from you, take care.
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